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Video : Your child’s feeling world Watch as Carol explains how children live in a feelings world, whereas adults live in their ‘heads’. She reminds us that often we unintentionally deny a child’s feelings by telling them they can’t be feeling something or that it’s ‘not that bad’ etc. – hereby effect their developing self-esteem.  An important concept here is that “all...

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Video : disciplining with heart

Video : disciplining with heart


Posted By on May 19, 2017

Video : Disciplining with heart : a balance of compassion and firmness Watch Carol discuss how to discipline with heart – what it is and how to do it. An approach that combines compassion and firmness in equal measure, so that children get to feel heard and respected, while at the same time learn from the consequences of their choices. Instead of constantly nagging and feeling frustrated, when we discipline with heart something...

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Video : Responsibility Carol talks about responsibility and how the word literally means the ‘ability’ to ‘respond’, and that by encouraging children by giving them plenty of choices and consequences, they can easily learn to become responsible. “I like to break the word into two, to remind myself that responsibility really is about our ability to respond.  As parents, we’d like our children to have...

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What you say & how you say it

What you say & how you say it


Posted By on May 4, 2017

What you say and how you say it – our words really effect children Your words, (and how you say them), are being absorbed by your kids all the time. Neuroscientist, Louis Cozolino, tells us that the amygdala (that part of our brain that is activated in fear situations) pays special attention to anger signals, while positive, warm encouragement increases serotonin (a feel-good hormone). This means that simply through words (and...

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Disciplining with heart

Disciplining with heart


Posted By on May 1, 2017

Discipline with heart – compassion wins co-operation Wouldn’t it be great to shout at our kids less, while actually getting them to co-operate more? Instead of constantly nagging and feeling frustrated, when we discipline with heart something magical happens. With less effort, we achieve more! It’s an approach that relates to your child’s (as well as your own) feelings, while speaking clearly and firmly about what’s expected at...

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Video : Importance of words – what you say and how you say it counts! Carol speaks about the importance of our words and their effect on a child’s nervous system. Your positive words and the way you say them very important, even on your child’s nervous system. Psychologist Carol Surya explains why words count so much.  This short video clip explains why it’s important to choose your words wisely and also be...

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